Compassionate, no-BS relationship coaching in Santa Barbara

Stop losing yourself

Are you ready to stop losing yourself in relationships? Do you want to be loved without having to earn it?

Show me how →

Quit being a Nice Guy

Are you ready to stop people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, and putting yourself last?

I’m ready →

End the struggle

Are you tired of overthinking, expecting the worst, and letting negative thoughts run your life?

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Stop abandoning yourself for love

You don't have to keep losing yourself in your relationships, taking care of everyone else, and feeling like you're only valued for what you do.

You can stop living for everyone else's approval, learn to take care of yourself without guilt, and become a woman who knows her worth whether anyone needs her or not.

Get Your Life Back →
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Tired of being the Nice Guy?

You're the giver. You accommodate everyone else, then feel guilty or afraid when you speak up for yourself. And you resent it when no one seems to care what you need or even appreciate all you do.

Speak up without being an asshole, say no when you mean no, and become the man you want to be.

Stop Being Everyone's Yes Man →
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Put an end to the mental struggle

You get caught up in worrying, regrets, self-criticism, and worst-case scenarios. The more you think, the worse you feel. There doesn't seem to be a way out.

Take back control of your mind and life, and feel confident, hopeful, and positive again.

End Negative Thinking →
Doug Hope

Training and credentials

  • 30 years of coaching experience
  • Certified Master Life Coach
  • Six months of training with the Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy
  • Bachelor of Arts in Education
  • Methods: memory reconsolidation, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Acceptance and Commitment Training (ACT), and somatic emotional work
About me